Opening more than my ears

I am listening with my heart

I had a conversation this morning about housework issues that is a familiar one.  Although the content was not new the underlying issues are wrapped in strong emotions that make it hard to untangle and come to a shared understanding.  I have been thinking about how I listened and I can see that I missed some important things that were said.  The Chinese symbol 'to listen' is made up of several separate characters to express what it means. I was so focused on expressing my own emotions and being protective of myself that I was unable to truly listen with my eyes, ears, heart and undivided attention.  I am happy that I was able to be expressive, and I also have disappointment that I was not more sensitive and attentive. 

It is the most important, and also the most difficult, for me to change unhealthy patterns that I have established in my long term relationships.  When I recognize those patterns I can institute positive change by my willingness to take accountability and work on making improvements.  Today I will listen from my heart so that I will hear the desires and needs that are beyond the words being spoken.